When women experience sex not as a ten-nine-eight countdown to climax, not as quest or test, but in terms of sensing, knowing, and feeling what one poet calls "the song of life singing" through them, then Eros offers more than mere physical gratification. As a result, men and women and teenage boys and girls, do not react to nor view sexuality and intimacy the same ways.This may indeed be what sex was meant to be-an experience that touches the essence of who we are in ways not unlike a spiritual revelation. Pornographers approach the male and female markets differently.Again, the insights that follow are not absolutes but represent what most therapists, psychologists, and scientists consider to be the majority of men and women.
Woman's sexuality, like our ways of taking in and thinking about the world, is more holistic.
"I see female sexual response in a circle, with every aspect of sexual interaction-touching, kissing, hugging-as a pleasurable endpoint in itself," Whipple says.
For women, the process of making love-the holding and the hugging and the tenderness-can be as emotionally gratifying as orgasm itself, and sometimes even more so.
What seems harmless, uninteresting, or meaningless to a woman may be extremely powerful and addictive to a man or vice versa.
We must be aware of what materials, stimuli, and circumstances make men and women and teenage boys and girls, most vulnerable and at greatest risk when it comes to pornography, chatrooms, movies, TV programs, etc.